RECOVERY PARTNER PROGRAMME

Care is infrastructure.

HOTMESS is a queer nightlife platform that takes recovery seriously enough to never charge for it.

Most platforms treat recovery as a side topic — a wellness link buried in the menu, a feature toggle, an afterthought. We disagree.

Queer nightlife and queer recovery exist on the same map, in the same bodies, with the same people. You cannot build a platform for the first without the second. So we don't try.

Recovery Partner status on HOTMESS is free. Forever. No paid tier. No upsell. No data extraction. No conditions beyond a shared commitment to care.

The recovery organisations on HOTMESS aren't sponsors. They're co-architects of what the platform represents.

What recovery partners get

Public presence

  • Persistent listing on this page
  • Featured in the platform's /recovery view
  • Discoverable to users in recovery-aware mode

Meeting integration (Q3)

  • Searchable meeting schedules (CMA, SMART, AA, NA queer-specific)
  • Time-zone aware
  • Calm visual signature on globe for recovery-mode users

Direct line

  • Direct contact with Phil for anything you need
  • Your team consulted on UX decisions affecting recovery presentation
  • Quarterly transparency report

Founding Recovery Partners

The Recovery Partner tier is free, forever. No application form, no fee, no upsell. Outreach to London's queer recovery, harm reduction, and mental health organisations is going out this week. As organisations sign the one-page mutual commitment letter, they will be named here.

We won't list any organisation until they've explicitly said yes. That's the whole point of how we built this.

If you run a queer recovery, harm reduction, or mental health organisation and want to be listed: care@hotmessldn.com. We'll reply within 48 hours with the commitment letter.

Want to be listed?

If you run a queer recovery organisation, meeting group, or harm-reduction service and want to be a Recovery Partner: get in touch.

No form. Just: care@hotmessldn.com

We'll reply within 48 hours. No application form. There's a one-page mutual commitment letter we'll send you, defining what we will and won't do with the relationship. Sign it, and you're listed.

§ 1 — TRUST FLOOR

What we don't ask of you.

  1. 01No payment from recovery partners. The Recovery tier is free, forever.
  2. 02No member-acquisition pressure. We do not expect you to drive signups.
  3. 03No nightlife-coded marketing on partner-facing surfaces. The care register is preserved.
  4. 04No exit clauses that penalise clinical priorities. You stay because it works, not because leaving costs.
  5. 05No data-sharing without explicit, opted-in consent — including aggregate trend data.

§ 2 — OPERATIONAL DELIVERABLES

What you get.

  1. 01Presence in the member-facing Safety Hub map — listed where the people who need you can find you, when they need you.
  2. 02Editorial placement in HOTMESS Radio — signposting threaded into the platform's cultural surface, not bolted on.
  3. 03Signposting via the member onboarding state field — recovery-aware mode routes new members past your front door automatically.
  4. 04Member self-disclosure data — anonymised, opt-in only. Trend signals for service planning, never identification data.

§ 3 — POSITIONING

What we're building together.

HOTMESS is infrastructure, not a recovery brand. The platform is the coordination layer where nightlife, recovery, sexual health, and harm reduction meet in the rooms the men who need them are already in. Recovery partners aren't endorsing a product — they're the connective tissue that makes the platform's care register real. When you sign the mutual commitment letter, you're not lending your name to HOTMESS. You're participating in the layer that makes the work you already do reachable inside the platforms your users are already on.

Care isn't a feature we toggle. It's the floor we build everything else on.